Emotional Intelligence and Money: Are You Making the Right Decisions About Your Investments?

Ravee Mehta made headlines in 2012 when he published The Emotionally Intelligent Investor. The premise goes against everything you’ve learned about investing in the 20th century, like reason is better than emotion and that a few basic principles should guide all investors.
It’s often said that you shouldn’t make emotional decisions about your money—and there’s some truth to that. Acting out of fear or reacting to headlines can lead to costly mistakes, especially when it comes to buying or selling investments.
But that doesn’t mean emotions have no place in financial planning.
In fact, understanding your emotional responses—your stress triggers, your risk tolerance, your tendencies in uncertain times—can help you make better, more purposeful decisions. The goal is not to ignore the feelings. Which is to recognize them and create a plan that keeps you focused when they appear.
We have also moved away from the idea that markets are driven by purely rational players. Real people—investors, policymakers, all of us—bring emotions, biases, and imperfect information to every decision. And the markets reflect that.
That’s why planning is important.
Instead of trying to predict or skip every shift, the most effective way is to create a strategy that works for you—your goals, your timeline, your resources, and your mindset.
Below, we’ll explore different approaches for different types of people—because there’s no “right” way to plan, only the one that helps you move forward with clarity, confidence, and control.
Different Types of Intelligence – And Why It Matters With Your Money
We’re not all the same—and that’s a strength.
Since the late 1970s, economists and psychologists have expanded the way we think about intelligence. We now know that there is not just one type of “smart”. And importantly, being good with money is not limited to people who are naturally mathematically inclined.
In the 1980s, Harvard psychologist Howard Gardner introduced the concept of multiple intelligences, challenging the narrow definition of IQ.
A few examples:
- Visual-spatial intelligence (artists, architects)
- Verbal intelligence (writers, teachers)
- Mathematical intelligence (analysts, engineers)
- Bodily-kinesthetic intelligence (builders, athletes)
- As well as musical, interpersonal, interpersonal, and natural intelligence
Here are the essentials to take with you: There is no single “investor personality” that guarantees success.
You might think that if you’re naturally driven by numbers, you’re at a disadvantage. But that’s not how real-world decision-making works.
The Success of Behavioral Economics
Once we moved beyond the concept of a single “good” wisdom, something else became clear: Everyone—no matter how smart—has blind spots when it comes to money.
Behavioral economics shows that we all carry predictable biases that influence our decisions:
- We overextend what we already have (i gift effect)
- We hold on to losing investments for the long term (i.e the result of planning)
- We react emotionally to short-term market movements
These are not the faults of only a few people. They are human beings. And the markets reflect that.
Becoming an Emotionally Intelligent Investor
So if everyone is biased, what’s the point? The answer is not trying to get rid of emotions, but learning how to deal with them.
You can become a successful investor with a simple (but not easy) two-step process:
1. Know yourself (This is the real edge)
As Benjamin Franklin wrote, “There are three very hard things: iron, diamonds, and self-awareness.”
But this is where better financial decisions begin. A few ways to make this work:
Appreciate your patterns: Have you held on to an investment for longer than you should have? Or sold early out of fear? That’s not failure—knowing. And awareness is the first step to improvement.
Understand your true risk tolerance: It’s easy to feel comfortable with risk when markets are rising. The real test is how you react when you fall. A plan only works if you can stick to it in times of uncertainty.
Play to your strengths: Your financial health is not just about improving investments. It’s about aligning your money with what you naturally know—and what’s most important to you.
Learn to recognize emotions in real time: Emotions run high. They are meant to be. Fear, urgency, excitement—all push you into action.
But financial markets are not emergencies. They don’t need to react quickly.
The ability to pause—to see what you feel without taking action—is one of the most important financial skills you can develop. Check your financial values and get more information about financial behavior.
2. Create an effective plan with your psychology
Without a plan, emotions tend to drive decisions.
With programming, emotions become something you anticipate—and design.
Instead of reacting to what others are doing or what the market did yesterday, your plan gives you a solid reference point.
A robust program helps you answer:
- Why am I investing?
- What does success look like to me?
- What is my timeline?
- What changes am I willing (or unwilling) to make?
Here’s a simple gut-check:
- I am clear on my long term goals
- I don’t rely on short-term market gains
- I’m ready to deal with negative situations—I’m not surprised by them
- I am different, so my future does not depend on one result
- I have a plan—and I trust it enough to stick to it
If you can confidently say yes to most of these, you’re already ahead of the curve. And if not—that’s exactly where planning comes in.
Your Plan is the Anchor
At the end of the day, financial confidence does not come from predicting the market. It comes from understanding your plan.
A comprehensive retirement plan helps you:
- See how your decisions today affect your future
- Understand the tradeoffs clearly
- Stay focused in times of uncertainty
- Prepare to think instead of reacting emotionally
That’s the real benefit.
The Boldin Retirement Planner is designed to help you do just that—to bring clarity to where you stand today, and confidence in where you’re headed.
Because the goal isn’t to take emotion out of money, it’s to make decisions you can feel good about—both within reason. again emotionally.
And, if you know you’d benefit from guidance—or just want a second set of eyes—you don’t have to do this alone. Working with a CFP® professional can help you:
- Test your program by pressing
- Stay accountable during market fluctuations
- Make more confident decisions over time
You can contact an advisor through Boldin Advisors to get started.



