A Little Romantic But My Favorite Thing I’m Doing This February
Since I’ve finally decided to officially move to Texas, I’ve decided it’s time again to do something incredibly responsible: Update my “If Something Happens to Me” file. This is not a disease. This is not pessimism. This is not my worst thinking. This is an admission that I am a 50-year-old single woman with a life, accounts, responsibilities, and children who should not be left to play detective if something goes wrong.
Traveling regions are a natural testing ground. Addresses change. The rules change. And the mental note of “Maybe I should take care of that” is officially expiring.
This is not about planning a disappearance. It’s about planning not leaving chaos.
Why This Matters (More Than People Realize)
If something happens to me, I don’t want my children:
- locked out of accounts;
- guessing passwords;
- digging through papers;
- or opposing institutions that require specific forms.
I love them so much for that.
So yes, I do something boring, for adults. And I call it self-love.
The First 5 Things I Write (In This Order)
It’s not everything. Not all at once. Just the most important things.
1. Beneficiaries (Because This Crosses All)
This is the big one.
I check and review the beneficiaries of:
- retirement accounts
- bank accounts
- or any life insurance
Because no matter what your will says, heir forms are usually successful. If it’s written by the wrong person, they get the money. Full stop.
This step alone can prevent total chaos.
2. My Trusted Person (Yes, I Should Tell Them)
Someone needs to know how to step in if needed.
So I check again:
- who is that person,
- even if it is still the right decision,
- and making sure they really know.
There are no plans. There is no thinking. No, “they will understand that.”
3. A Simple “Here’s Where It’s All” List
Not passwords. They are not instructions to use my life.
Just:
- bank names
- investment accounts
- insurance companies
- Recurring debts
- where my password manager lives
It is enough to reduce the panic. It is enough to give a starting point.
4. Basic Documents in One Place
It has not been dismantled. Not “I think it’s in a closet somewhere.” This is an organized 3 ring binder, with tabs, that I don’t look at often, it holds the keys to everything. And of course it’s time, I went over and made sure everything was in order.
At least:
- ID
- Social Security Card
- insurance information
- any existing legal documents
One folder. Physical or digital. It is clearly labeled. Boring in the best way.
5. Texas Reality Check
Because country lines matter.
As part of the movement, I update:
- whether existing documents are still valid
- what needs to be reviewed under Texas law
- What should I create if I haven’t already?
This is not an overnight project. It is a “deliberate startup” project.
The Part Nobody Likes to Talk About
This type of planning doesn’t feel rushed—until it is.
But doing it now means:
- a few decisions later
- the pressure is less on the people I love
- and proof that I take my life seriously
This is not a disease.
There is responsibility.
It is considered.
And honestly? It’s one of the most self-loving financial moves I can make.
If you’re in a period of change, simplification, or you just feel like you don’t want to leave loose ends – this is your nudge.
Start small.
Write the basics.
And give yourself credit for doing something for adults.
Even if it is not romantic.
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